this is my dad

November is National Lung Cancer Awareness Month. This is a layout I did of my dad about 5 years ago. For people that have known me and my family, they know the guy in this photo and what a zest for life he had. My dad would sing to his food and just go about life in his merry way.

I have to admit when I see this layout I am a bit sad. As many of you know, my dad was diagnosed with cancer a little over a year ago. Stage IV lung cancer (non smoker).  He is stable now, his health is pretty good but...

My dad isn't the same guy as he was in the photo. This is the first time I have talked about it publically. My sister and I are struggling with that. I will be the first to admit, that we as a family don't publically talk about feelings or even health issues a lot of times. My sister and I were just discussing how my dad has changed in this year since he was diagnosed. And today I want to talk about it to see/hear if anyone has any similar experiences. 

My dad, while his health is ok, seems very depressed about life and his state of being. Depression is not something that runs in my family so that makes it very challenging for Deb and I to help my dad with. It isn't something we understand. While we see his treatment so far as a gift for him to enjoy life, he doesn't seem to enjoy it. 

Tomorrow my dad goes to the doctor again. I will be going to see what we can do for his mental health. I did catch a couple of sparkles of laughter today when my kids were at lunch with my parents and Olivia and Noah were giving out hugs and kisses.

 

Comments

[Shonie]

I don't know if this will help but major disease causes depression. My Father was diagnosed with stomach cancer and got very depressed. He was urged by his Dr to see a Phsychiatrist who specializes in those who have depression due to illness. He was a lifesaver in so many ways. The biggest being that he suggested my Father had been misdiagnosed. He was right and he saved my Father's life. I guess certain diseases manifest different types of depression. A skilled Psychiatrist who specializes in cancer may be able to help your Father as well. I hope his zest for life returns and I can feel the pain at seeing a parent suffer that your family is going through. You're in my thoughts.

[slammie]

P&PT heading out. I can only imagine that it's probably part of the process of dealing with cancer. Definitely seek help....

[Cynthia B.]

Sorry to hear about your dad. My own dad has Parkinson's and it's been sad to see his former vigor, his sense of humor and ability to be independent...slowly draining out of him. I wouldn't say he's depressed, but he's definitely more dependent, and it's frustrating for all of us. It sounds like the treatments are working for your dad, so I do hope his doctor can suggest something to aid in the emotional aspect of the diagnosis too. Best wishes to your family!